There was no question to us who would lead in our first dance song. Galit has the brains and I have the feet. Neither of us are good at giving up control, but in our relationship dynamic it made sense for me to lead and Galit to follow. Since we had no real clue how to slow dance together (bumping and grinding for the first dance having been dismissed as a bit tacky), so we both had to learn how to dance. We knew a big dance performance was out of the question. We thought, as nervous as we were going to be just walking down the aisle without taking out a row of guests in a misstep, an elaborate performance might put all those at our reception in danger.
So, we took a dance with Liz Nania at Out to Dance. Liz was awesome. She made us pick who was leading and who was following. You can’t have two drivers. Once we had our roles, we learned some basic steps. What a difference it made learning how to lead and follow. “How do guys just know how to do this,” I asked Liz. “Most don’t,” Liz replied. “It’s a common complaint of straight women.” Many husbands don’t really know how to lead. I thought it was some performance enhancing side effect of testosterone. Who knew?
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