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What does a lesbian wear to her wedding? | Gay Wedding Resource

The number one question I got asked when I told people I was getting married was, “So what are you wearing to the wedding?” I’m typically not a dress wearing, high heel walking kind of a gal but the idea of shopping for a gown and walking down the aisle in one was exciting to me. I just couldn’t imagine myself in a suit or tux.  Years ago when I came out at 18 I attended a formal lesbian fundraiser in Boston. Trying to play the part (or what I thought was the part) I rented a tux and black Paten leather shoes. Off I went with my short, short hair, nose ring and black tux. Not for a moment did I feel comfortable in my own skin. After going through many transformations as a lesbian I now know there is only one way I need to be and that’s myself. And boy did I have fun with my feminine side on our wedding day!

The hardest part was not deciding what to wear but finding a dress to wear! For months I tried on dresses decorated with lace, pearl beading, and flower embroidery and weighing way too much for a night of dancing. Finally I found a dress at Gilda’s Bridal Shop in Fall River, that fit my body perfectly but the hideous flowers had to go. So we removed the flowers and replaced them with beadwork in the folds of the dress and added beadwork to the chest. I loved the dress and more importantly how I felt in it. Feminine but with an edge! Taking a stroll after the ceremony

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Taking a stroll after the ceremony

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7 Responses to “What does a lesbian wear to her wedding?”

  1. darren says:

    Why is it that most of lesbian weddings one of the couples will wear a tux but in male same sex you never see one guy wearing a wedding dress why is it ok for a woman to wear a tux but not for a guy to wear a wedding dress?

  2. TomBride™ says:

    That’s a great question. I bet there are gay men who do express themselves at their weddings by wearing dresses. It may not be as common. Perhaps because society’s got over women wearing pants and suits a while ago, but men wearing dresses is still a new frontier. Hopefully as equal marriage becomes more prevalent and accepted, people will be free to express themselves in any way they choose.

  3. Renee says:

    Probably for the same reason why women do wear trousers, shirts in everyday life but guys dont wear skirts and dresses…well normaly :)

  4. Vince says:

    I would love to be wearing the wedding dress at my wedding. I would feel so much more comfortable compared to a tuxedo (I hate them). It is a shame that society doesn’t accept people for who they are and just let people live thier lives. So it really matter if we have different beliefs in living, just as long as you don’t hurt others in return. It maybe a better place to live.

  5. Frank says:

    You will see women wearing pants/suits at a w/w wedding. BUT YOU WILL ONLY SEE ONE. There is always one dress, and frequently two.

  6. Rod says:

    Well i am a straight male and would love the chance to wear an elaborate wedding gown with all the trimmings to my wedding, thats if my future wife would accept it?

    Nothing wrong with men wanting to wear a wedding dress if thats what they desire?

    After all its the couples day, be they gay or straight?

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